Have you ever tried to break a bad habit? Not easy is it! We’ve all seen those celebrity spokespeople touting the benefits of one diet system or another. And watched their series of TV ads admiringly as the pounds dropped off like magic till they were slim again. Then just a short time later spotted their girth on the cover of a tabloid; the front page barely big enough to display it all.
“Now if they can’t break a bad habit, with their ability to hire chefs, personal trainers, and food coaches” you say to yourself “what chance do I have”? Which makes an important point; the easiest way to break a bad habit is to never start it in the first place. One of my best friends smoked for years. Even though she quit ages ago she still remembers what a struggle it was. I, on the other hand, never smoked which allowed me to avoid that particular fight. So before you pick up any new habit, ask yourself if it is something you will likely regret down the road. And if there is even a hint of a yes in your mind, stop before you even start!
But what if you already have a bad habit you want to break, how should you go about it? First don’t pussy foot into it. Don’t tell yourself that I’ll quit being a couch potato, gossiper, or food abuser tomorrow, next week, or after the first of the year. Decide to stop right now! Next don’t even think in terms of breaking the bad habit. Instead find a good habit to take its place.
If the bad habit you’d like to rid yourself of is sitting on the couch every night, listlessly watching TV, volunteering at the local Boys & Girls Club three nights a week will get you off the sofa and out of the house. If food is your weakness, post a sign on the fridge that says, “Walk or run in place for fifteen minutes before opening.” And then do it! If you catch yourself whining several times a day, “I’m bored” as if it is someone else’s responsibility to entertain you, stop letting your mind float. And instead start engaging it by filling it with new information. Hop on the internet or head to the library and learn about what teens did in the 1800s for fun, how Thomas Edison came up with so many inventions, or what people eat as their main diet in India. Doesn’t make any difference what area you explore as long as you do something.
And that’s the key—you have to take action. Removing a bad habit from your life isn’t about wishing, hoping, or dreaming. As with most things in life it is all about the doing. You cannot be bored and filling your mind with interesting facts at the same time. You can’t be sitting on the couch like a toad and also volunteering at a kid’s basketball game. You can’t be mindlessly stuffing your face and also doing yoga.
This brings us to our second point. Besides taking action, breaking a bad habit takes one more thing—self discipline. Up to this point, your parents may have played the biggest role in keeping you in line starting with time-outs during your terrible twos and moving on to curfews as you became a pre-teen. But now it’s time for you to step up to the plate and learn to control your own actions.
If I had to describe self discipline I’d say it is the ability to make yourself do what you know is right even when everything in you says “I don’t want to.” Learning to make yourself do this is a skill you have to acquire just like any other. There isn’t any magic. You just have to practice, practice, practice until self discipline and your new good habit become second nature. Keep in mind that studies have shown that it takes approximately twenty one days for any new behavior or thought process to take hold so don’t get discouraged. Just keep at it. And remember–practicing self discipline, while replacing a bad habit with a good one, is a win-win if there ever was one.
“Good habits formed at youth make all the difference”. Aristotle
“Dreams are what get you started. Discipline is what keeps you going.” Jim Ryun